Daughters are real darlings, I can vouch for this: the pleasant feelings that I experience quite often due to my two adorable cuties is a great stress buster! Any working mom without a cook, would know that the few hours in the morning, when everyone has to be out by 8:30am with lunches packed are no less than those of a war front. It was one such morning and to add to the woes, I had woken up late, thanks to a late night telecon. As I was trying to work at the maximum speed possible and multi-tasking, the most dreaded thing happened – the masala box (the one with 6 partitions for the different spices) slipped from my hand and fell all over the gas stove, the kitchen counter and the floor. I looked with horror at the scene – jeera, mustard, turmeric powder, asafoetida … all looked inseparable like long lost lovers and what more, there was no option to put off this cleaning until after I return from office!. I was weighing my options of bursting into tears or into anger… just then two tiny hands hugged me from behind. As I was about to shrug them off, they wrapped around more tightly. It was my 9 year old in her school uniform getting ready and she said, “Don’t worry ma, it happens. We all drop things, even I had dropped and spilt a lot of stuff.” I just hugged her tightly for a few minutes, just thanking her. Those words were enough to make me calm and sane and believe me, all the tasks got done in a very short time and I even had a few minutes to relax before stepping out to work. It also made me feel very small and recollect the times when I have shouted at her for not being careful with things.
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Devishobha is the founder of Kidskintha- a global parenting and education collective, and the host of the global virtual conferences hosted on the platform. You can also find her voice on the Huffington Post, Mother.ly, Entrepreneur, Lifehack, TinyBuddha, Thought Catalog and many other publications.
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Big Talk about Tiny Humans is India’s first science-backed, research-based podcast with insights on child development and psychology for discerning parents and educators. Devishobha, the founder of Kidskintha and Dr. Meghna, The Therapist Mommy have a lot of fun co-hosting this podcast in collaboration with IVM podcasts, the largest podcast network in India! Join us along this roller-coaster ride!
I get triggered every time my child doesn’t listen to me. Why do I get SO triggered when I’m not heard? Is it because I’m overwhelmed with my parental responsibilities? Or does it go deeper than that? Do my triggers flow from the past- from a time when I wasn’t heard by my parents?
In the 24th episode, hosts Dr Meghna and Devishobha discuss how our childhood and how we were raised can continue to impact us and how we choose to parent our kids.
The hosts discuss how to utilise our triggers in cultivating self-awareness about our past and go on to heal ourselves. Through real-life therapy examples, the hosts discuss how to recognise that we’re triggered and how to then work to stay in the present.
The hosts share everyday practices to avoid the tripwire: acronymed CONS
C= Practising self-compassion and empathy
O=Imaging and practicing a different outcome
N= Fulfilling unmet needs
S= Seeking support
Big Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.
If you wish to learn more, check out:
How not to pass on your own trauma to your kids: YouTube video by The Therapist Mommy
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences by Peter Levine and Ann Frederik
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabor Mate
Tune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes!
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I cannot thank you enough for supplying these talks. I am a special education teacher, PreK-6th grade, in Montana, USA. I am so grateful to have instruction and insight from so many experts available to me. Thank you also for providing the links for follow-up questions and diving deeper into their areas of expertise. This summit will make a difference in the way I approach
assessment, instruction, and intervention in my classroom, as well as how I collaborate with my general education colleagues and parents. All that and I am only halfway through day 1!
Kidskintha Summit Participant
I am impressed with your hard work and your immense curiosity, passion, and determination to execute this summit at this hour when the world is battling. All the lectures were well organized and planned, and cherry on top well lined up! The best feedback I want to tell you is I was so woven with the lectures that I managed to complete them on the designated days! I was so glued to all the lectures that I carried my screen and hands-free to the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom to complete them and generate notes to share with my colleagues and apply them at work.
Kidskintha Summit Participant
I am thrilled to see a conference hosted by an Indian parenting website that has brought together renowned names in the various fields of parenting. Not only are the presenters known, but the topics have also been curated to give parents practical ways to better themselves. Areas like resilience, social-emotional well-being, skilling for adolescents,
etc. are relevant and needed areas of discussion. I got to see a preview of a session on mindfulness by Christopher Willard and was impressed with the ease with which Devishobha guides the discussion to the needs of the Indian parent community. I am
looking forward to listening to more of the speakers during the conference.
Special Educator, Kidskintha Summit participant.
Devishobha has been a great collaborator with my organization on behalf of preventing child abuse. She has been brilliant at getting simple, effective, and actionable advice and tools to parents. She brings together the best people in an easy-to-access online format. It is so unusual to work with someone who has a sense of quality and accessibility for parents!
Ph.D.; Director- Coalition For Children; Speaker, Kidskintha Parenting Consciousness Summit.
I would like to thank you very much for holding the special kid's international summit. I had applied to more than 20 alternative schools all over India two years ago for my son's admission, but nothing worked out. I knew the existing school was not good enough for him. I felt frustrated and could not understand what plans God had for me. However I am very grateful to you for making me aware of so many aspects, now my son has got admission to a school specially meant to teach children like him, in New Jersey and my son is very happy.
Kidskintha SPINS Summit
Lisa Lynam Piar
I am an avid researcher regarding parenting techniques, especially for complex or spirited children, and have already found this summit so helpful. I especially loved Bonnie Harris’s piece. Thank you for bringing all of these great resources to the world in a way we can easily access.
Early Educator, & participant, Parenting Consciousness Summit
It was a very insightful experience. As a preschool teacher, I can relate to the importance of the early years, which can have a lifelong impact on our children. Thank you for bringing us to this summit.
Kidskintha World Early Years Summit.
Rupa Sharat Kumar
An information-packed presentation. There were some great parenting tips for neuro-typical as well as neuro-diverse kids.
Kidskintha SPINS summit participant.
The session was wonderful and the highlight was the 5C strategy.
Kidskintha SPINS Summit participant.
Very very interesting session! It was really wonderful the way the whole thing was explained with regard to the Indian context with practical solutions! Great job!